Dating to exclusive relationship
We’re exclusive – but the relationship part needs to evolve slowly.What’s wrong with dating exclusively for a while and getting to know one another before slapping that girlfriend label across my ass?A funny thing happened after we had that exchange; because I was able to be completely candid about my feelings and also listen to his, my fears about labels subsided.His willingness to stick around, despite my reservations, made me realize he was worth taking the leap into girlfriend territory. Be honest with the person you are dating about what you are comfortable with. Anyone who can’t deal shouldn’t be in your life anyway.1) Be Independent Some “experts” say you should act unavailable.It’s true that being overly available can seem desperate or unattractive, but the last thing you want to do is play dating games.Making a commitment like that means our lives are beginning to intertwine and I’m planning some type of a future with you – which means introducing you to my kid.It also probably means there’s an expectation that someday we’re going to take things to the next level – like moving in together or even getting married.
Despite my thinking he’d end things, my hesitation didn’t scare him off. He was willing to continue being exclusive without being able to call me his girlfriend yet.
Though I’ve been completely open to investing my heart and time in quality men that I meet, my first reaction to hearing the word “girlfriend” too soon is to cringe – or even worse, RUN.
I’ve seen other women get giddy over being in a serious relationship, but for me, as a single mom, that’s where things get complicated.
Since becoming a single mom more than five years ago, I’ve gone through a lot of changes – especially in my dating life. For awhile I bounced back and forth between playing the field and not dating at all to focus on my son and myself.
At the time, seeing a man one or two times and then moving on to the next was easier for me than anything committal.I think this is the first time I’ve ever entered into a relationship 100% authentically me – and it feels pretty damn amazing. Lasting relationships are built on trust and communication, and we all want a lasting relationship, right? The right kind of partner will accept your imperfections and help carry your bags, so you both can enjoy the ride.How exactly do you go from dating someone casually to having a serious relationship with them? What qualities made you want to get serious with your date? Being self-aware of how others perceive you is a huge advantage in dating and relationships.Without even realizing it, the desire to fall in love again had crept back into my life.